well i don’t really have anything to say that relates to anyone else this is just an outpouring of my troubled soul. i’m in love and it is a strange sensation that isn’t entirely good like in the movies in fact at times it hurts like a knife being pushed and twisted in my heart. still i know it is love as he has the ability to make me hurt and no one who isn’t extremely close to me has that ability. anyway my dilema/worry is that a week or two before we met
i being the wiccan i am cast a spell to meet a love. keeping names out of it and making it unspecific as i wouldn’t want to take away anyones use of free will. now i wonder if maybe he is the result of my spell and if he is does this mean he can never love me properly. i feel i cheated him before i even met him what if he doesn’t even wanna be with me but it is the spell that holds him. i become even more worried by the fact we are so unsuited he is mr incredabliy normal who doesn’t like music. i am sooo not like him i adore music in any shape or form by music i must have something with guitar and screaming vocals to count. fave bands including marylin manson/nin and smashing pumpkins (who were excellent live despite what anyone says) i wear all black and on rare occasions purple, DM’s and dog collars and he seriouskly is like mr normal jeans and t-shirt. i love it but surely a mismatched couple like us couldn’t have got together if it wasn’t magick helping us along. i fel so bad and don’t know what to do was it my spell or does he love me?
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I don’t pretend to be an authority on Wicca, being new to it myself, but what I can do is offer a veiw from the outside looking in… bear me no malice for what I say, its my first impression, and so I trust my instincts….
Here goes…
Are you happy with him right now? Would you, given the chance, change him? Does he treat you as you should be treated? If you were sad, would he make the effort to cheer you up? Would he hold you in your arms and tell you everything will be okay?
If you said yes, then worry not about the spell being the thing that led him to you… for that’s all it is, it opens up the possibility that might never have been strong enought to be acted upon… he came to you, that’s all there is to it…
Love is a rare thing, cherish this time like no other… I am sooo envious that you have someone to love, me, I have only the memory of what its like…
In sadness, remembering the past
AcidBoy
Read your post. There are two main things I want to touch on. The first is a little finger-wagging and tut-tutting: I am sorry to say that your fears may be founded “now i wonder if maybe he is the result of my spell and if he is does this mean he can never love me properly.” Being wicca, you know what kind of power you can wield, responsibly or otherwise. Why would would you use magic to influence one of the greater magics in this sad world, namely love? I understand the temptation, but you also understand the ethical and personal dilemmas that love spells create.
Now that being said, stop worrying about the differences that make our partnerships with others so very special. My wife is not a witch, I am. My wife loathes doom metal, I prefer the genre. She loves interpretive dance, I do not. She is tall, thin and pale. I am muscular, broad and dark-complected. She displays reticence in sharing her intimate thoughts, I can fire away. In sum, there are differences ranging from superficial to sublime.
The task for you is to determine, as AcidBoy said, whether you want him to change or do you love him the way he is. More importantly, is there room for growth for the two of you –as a couple and individually. I think maybe those are more salient concerns than questioning the wisdom of using the craft for these purposes. Because, as we all know, the damage (if any) is done, and it is time to deal with the ramifications.
good luck,
shadowgod
The number on e most important thing in any relationship is communication. Talk to him. You don’t need to get real deep right now if the relaionship is still fresh, but by just talking you can gage what sort of person he is, and what drew him to you. Talk to him. Enjoy being in the company of the one you love, you’d be saddened by how many people don’t even get that opportunity.
everything is rent
Vassago
Give yourself a chance! Alot of people ho are as different as night and day fallin love and it lasts.your spell? I not sure,but then Im a skeptic.Hang in there anyway, you never know until you try!