.:+:ONE THING I’VE LEARNED:+:.
If I didn’t think about it, I’d figure I hadn’t learned anything in my life. I’d think I’m as stupid now as the day I was born.
Now, as I look back, I realize how much I’ve learned. I’ve learned to speak, write, dance, eat, think for myself, and steal the remote. Most things I’ve learned are common place in people’s lives. Nothing I do today has that much impact on me. It’s just life. But I have learned something that will follow me through days and weeks, months and years. I’ve learned that your average person in not to be trusted.
You might think that odd, most people do. But I’ve been through so many “friends” before, I’m sick of them. All people do is hurt one another. They lie, cheat, backstab, and anything else you can think of. People are selfish, not selfless. I’m selfish too, I admit it. I’m human; I make mistakes just like everyone else. So please don’t think I’m a hypocrite. But “friends” usually aren’t worth the time. They’re selfish, mistake-making humans as well. And if you’re someone who doesn’t stand up for yourself much, you get used. Believe me, I know. I used to be too scared to speak my mind out of fear of losing my place in “The Land of Popularity.” And I got used by my supposed “friends” plenty. Even the people I trusted most used me, backstabbed me, and left me.
A prime example of this is a girl who used to be my “best friend.” We were inseparable for about two years. Yes, she used me during this time, but I was too blind to see it. So for 7th and 8th grade, it was all good. But when I entered my freshman year at RHS, things changed. She is prettier than me (most people are), and had more “popular” clothes, so she was automatically cooler than me. It’s sick to think that’s how it works, but it is. She still hung out with me a little, but I was beginning to see that she was using me. I shrugged it off though. And then, one day about ½way through the school year, she approached me followed closely by several of her fellow cheerleader buds that I don’t exactly get along with. She said, “You ugly fat bitch, have no friends and no life. Stop talking to me, and stay the hell away.” She was still supposed to be my “best friend.” I just stared at her blankly as it all registered in my head. Something in my head clicked then, or something of the same sort. I realized that it doesn’t matter who it is, because in the end one of you gets hurt. Trusting people as your “friend” or just plain trusting them isn’t worth it. And I’ve had all sorts of “friends”…
So for a long time I didn’t trust anyone, not even myself. I sort of sunk. Then I met a girl I whom I thought I could really relate to. She thought the same way as me about people. I made a mistake and I trusted her. I trusted her more than I’ve ever trusted anyone. And for about four months it worked. Inseparable, like it would last forever and we’d always be “friends.” She was my only “friend.” Then we entered our sophomore year. And it became quite clear how fast you can lose the only person you relate to, how fast you can lose your only “friend.” One second they’re there; joined at the hip with you, and the next they’re far too good for you, and they completely ignore you.
I’ve learned that trusting people is total shit. All it does it kill you slowly before you realize what’s happening. I’m sorry my views on life aren’t the cheeriest or anything, but this is what I’ve learned in my life that I think is worth writing about.
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Don’t be sorry for being unhappy, everyone goes there.
The wisest thing I ever heard is, ‘Friends come and go but with a special few you should hold on.’
If someone hurts you, try to understand why. It’s about survival of the strongest. Your so-called friends have looked around them and seen an easy way out. They’ve seen the popular people apparently coasting through life easily and tried their best to tag along for an easy ride. That’s not so wrong and the only sad thing is you got hurt in the process.
You can’t go through life without trust. At some point in life you’re going to fall. It’ll happen over and over again and you’ll only be able to get back up easily if there’s someone there with a lifeline.
You’re gonna shrug this off as bullshit but THERE ARE PEOPLE OUT THERE YOU CAN TRUST. They’ll hurt you and they’ll make mistakes but in truth you’ll probably hurt them just as much. You’ve gotta forgive and learn to be forgiven.
If you get hurt, you CAN’T let it floor you. I’ve been betrayed, forgiven people, hurt, been hurt, gotten lost, been reclaimed, been destroyed and rebuilt myself. People hurt people. The sooner everyone realizes that the better. But is turning off and losing faith really truly what you want?
The only thing I needed to know is that in the end, all that matters is that you can trust yourself.
Don’t be a co-dependent. Depend only on yourself. Friends can’t get you through life, but they can make you smile along the way. That’s all they should be used for.
well, being new hear i hope my comments don’t come back to haunt me. i can very much relate to you. i must say. i have not one friend. not one. i fell into your position n now i’ve blocked everyone out. it’s not like i purposely go out to yell n such, just no one appraoches me or cares. i know exactly how you feel and i take it you’re in highschool still now. so i don’t blame you for your attitude, and i say keep it. get’s lonely n all, but hey, i think some people feel lonely regardless. i say we’re in a state of mind. something that will do us good to get through highschool alive. but once we get older i think it should past. maybe i just dwell on the little things. who knows. negativity never helps, but i think negativity is a very good thing. keep on usin your head. n by the way, very brave of you to voice your opinions in an english paper. heh.
Don’t let this shit pull you down. Your ex-friends have the problem not you. Let them go, they are nothing but sheep following the herd. You keep your identity and people who you can trust will come along. Remember this, its not how you fall, its how you get up. Be strong.
Hey, I didn’t meet my best friend until the tail end of my sophmore year, and here it is 6 whole years later and we’re still friends. No , things aren’t the same as they used to be, and yes we’ve had our problems, (she told my familly about my cutting) But we still have a girls night out every week or so to catch up and compare notes on how stupid most of humanity is… yes, we are rare, but there are good, trust worthy people out there, you just have to know where to look.
It helps when you take it very slow and don’t tell them anything that might hurt if spilled for the first year or so.
Hey there, that’s really true and yet really wrong. I must admit there are more bad and sick people in the world as it is known today, however, there are some very few decent people. People whom you can trust. I do take to your views, I actually haven’t had that many bad times with backstabbing friends, however, I’ve still had the experince and quite frankly I got sick of it right away. I minimize my talks with me friends. I can trust them, however, memories of the past and the horrible people who I’ve trusted come back-making me hold back on my secrets. Even today most of my friends don’t know my deepest darkest secrets… I am myself human, I make mistakes-such as lying and cheating, but there isn’t one person in this world that doesn’t, even the best people have lied, cheated, stole. That’s the whole crap of it all, everyone is created equal-everyone just happens to end up being the same, no matter how different you think you are from everyone, you end up seeing that you’re the same, not be skin color, not by appearence but by character.
Trust is a VERY strong thing, and no matter how much you trust someone I bet they don’t know everything about you. Which comes back to it all-perhaps really there is no one you can trust.
That was really good, and I also agree with that
yup
people are shitfaces.
(me included)
azngoth
I’ve always said "If I wasn’t human, I would start a revolt against them."
People are shitheads, and that is inevitable. It will always be in evitable. So we have to get over it.
A lucky person will find a true ‘friend’ or whatever you want to call it. I think I only have 2 true friends, whom I can trust my life to. That is a true friend. Keep writing, you possess dismall, but good thoughts.
i cant say i know exactly how you feel, and i imagine thats a good thing.im guess im "lucky" if theres such a thing. the only thing ive ever been betrayed for was drugs-a friend of mine pretty much chose them over me when i told her she had to make the choice-and i handled that pretty well.truely good people are hard to find. i dont have many people i trust-there are a few, though. you just havent found yours yet. way i see it, is you have to open yourself up to be hurt a few times before you find them. the hurt will be worth it, when you do come accross them, though.
good luck : )
~W.R.~
The only thing I can say about all the things you’ve realized till now about all those "friends", is that I totally agree with you…I’ve already given up on finding a friend. Try guessing why…All that you receive by looking for a friend is a total disappointment, but u only understand that when they leave you or when you leave them.
I have herd sooo many times that lack of ”friends” is down to anti-social Behauver (sorry i know i cant spell lol.).thats shit.Anti-social behauver,for me,would be the effects of broken trust or lack of trust.. complications with the topic ”friends” are deeply discussed through expeirience and opinion, my opinion would be dont trust anyone with Everything.. maybe somethings like troubles i could consider dicussing with a close friend, but not stuff like your thoughts and feelings and deepest darkest secrets, because you must always think about the consiquences if the friendiship ends - but thats just my opinion.
TiNk xx
im lucky.
ive never been so narrowly judged. my friends are bigger people than that. We all know we like each other, regardless of what we wear or look like. we dont start disliking each other for any of the reasons your friends started disliking you. maybe you should find some REAL people to be friends with. they do exist. and you can trust them, despite the fact that they arent perfect. you see, i know they exist because i am one of them. my friends are also included in that group.
we are ecclectic. some of us are slim, some fat, some in between. our styles of dress vary from expensive and fashionable to grungy and old. and in between. some of us are ugly(according to society’s standards), and some of us are very attractive( according to society’s standards). We are all, however, intelligent, expansive and mature individuals, brutally honest and very open minded.
people like us do exist. They are everywhere. just because youve had some bad expiriences with some obviously immature, boring people doesn’t mean that you should condemn all of humanity. that in itself is narrowminded and boring. and you know what people on that level are like. do not join them.