One of the most painful things that I have encountered is finding out that people have been talking about you behind your back. It doesn’t matter if the person that has been doing this is someone you dislike or one of your friends – it still hurts. Because chances are that’s what they really think about you and just didn’t feel like telling you personally, although it usually gets around to the person anyway.
Its not so much them making fun of you or pointing out your flaws, but its the way that hearing about what someone said about you might make you realize your own flaws in the harshest way. But sometimes, when you look past the pain or anger that causes, it might be good to know what your flaws are in the eyes of others. Because then threes a chance that you could change those things. But if you change what people don’t like about you, are you really still you or just a person that suites them better? Because you may find that your favorite thing about yourself someone else hates about you. That’s why sometimes you must realize that you have to be the way you want yourself in order to be happy; otherwise who are you living for? But while talking about people behind their backs hurts so badly, everyone does it. Maybe about small issues, like “damn her hair is ugly today”. Most people do it without thinking of the pain it could cause the person it is being said about. so just think about that the next time you go to talk about someone behind their back.