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Why must we hate? No, the question out not to be why must we, but rather, why do we choose to? Is it not clear that we are all the same in every way that counts? Do we not all cry the same salty tears? Do we not each bleed the same scarlet blood? What is achieved by loathing? We hurt ourselves more than anything. And it’s not just hatred of a social group or race, but even true hate of an individual person. How many of us have despised someone without attempting to look deeper into why they act the way they do? This of course by no means excuses their behaviour, but why do we allow ourselves to hate blindly? How has it improved our lives? Staying awake at night and fantasizing over how we can exact revenge only serves to deprive us of sleep. Spending our lives despising someone only wastes time we could be spending thinking of loved ones. And what about those people we do love, how are they affected by our loathing? Perhaps they catch it too. Because if there’s one plague there seems no antidote to, it’s hatred. And I write this now, knowing that some time today I’ll claim to hate someone or something, but perhaps I use this word too lightly. It is a powerful emotion, and we must ensure that there is no other feeling that can be used before we resort to hate. Perhaps I try to make things too simple; perhaps there is no way to keep our emotions so in check. But try to complicate this: blood is blood, and tears are tears. We all bleed, and we all cry sometimes.
i find that when i do look deeper into why they act as they do, i end up hating them more for the weakness it usually implies. the idea of thinking of loved ones instead of a despised person falls short for me as i find that in love there reaches a peak, a plateu if you will. you can no longer think of this person in new ways with reguards to love. in some cases i start to dislike the loved person because of no other way to go. i would say that they are never affected unless we do indeed exact a revenge upon them. but it makes most of us feel better just understanding our position with a person, (.e. i hate him or i love her) so that we can go about our day with simplicity. hate is easy. love is hard. understanding them is what keeps us going.
i’ve never reached your ‘plateau’ chaos. Never, in all the years I’ve known the people I love, have I ceased to find new ways and reasons in which to love.
Perhaps it just has something to do with the capacity to love that we hold within ourselves. We each have the same boundless ability, but some of us harness it for fear of losing our own well honed control. Hate is so much easier to feel than love.
I think that’s what it all boils down to – If something or somebody reminds us of our own weakness, we push it away because we can’t deal. We have such complicated thoughts and feelings that disguising them as hate or anger makes them easier to deal with somehow.
Personally I have one thing I hate. A man. A sick, bitter, manipulative and twisted individual, and I hate him only because he makes me weak – he tests my control.
That’s why looking deeper within the other person never works. Since the hate comes from us, we have to look inside ourselves surely.
i don’t hate anyone. i have no reason to. i am not so violated against by anyone that i have a reason to hate them.
hate is a deep emotion. it is not something we are born with, but taught. it springs from hurt, envy, jealousy, and whatnot.
some people have true reasons to hate, but than what is a real reason to hate someone? hatred consumes only us.
another person could care less whether or not we hate them. he may even take pride in the fact that he can stir such a deep emotion from you.
that’s just my take.
–mourning
you are very right blacklight, i do not wish to loose the control you referenced and would not think twice to consider your thoughts as to why i have that plateu. i feel iunderstand my weaknesses enough to not push a person away because of it. i would do that if they only made it an intensified weakness. i would call it a survival reflex.
I loved hearing your thoughts on it though.
Sorry if we stole your thunder Audryn
Audryn’s thunder is quite safe, I assure you.
Hate consumes and devours the self more than anything else, it will eat away time and life itself and stop us dead in life to the things that we should be doing. But this can be true of any strong emotion felt too intensely at any time.
There are none I hate at this time, although I have in the past due to being hurt badly on an emotional and psychological level. But these have been worked and washed away into understanding and the passing of time with its resolutions. I have forgiven them for what they did once upon a time. There is no need to hold on as I have said it consumes the inner self, and it burns and attracts too much negativity in the process.
rumble….rumble….CRRRAACCKK!!! *grin* That was my thunder if you didn’t guess. 🙂