discouraged

i know who i am, i know what i am, and im still not satisfied. I find myself lonely. I recently moved to a new city, and have attempted to make friends with some people, but i am rejected, maybe because my style isnt dark enough for them. So i only have one question…to be non-conformist, why do i have to dress like all the other non-conformists? for supposed liberal minds, some people can be very selective in their friends, and its discouraging….