I found out today something about this asshole who supposidly fancies me… Just thought i’d share it since i’m not supposed to tell anyone….
He’s been tagging round with our “group” for a while, and is pissing most of us off. Not meaning to be… offensive in any kind of way, but he’s horrible, and greasy, and spotty, and… just plain ugly. The idea of him with anyone makes me feel sick and i feel bad saying that, cos he’s a “nice” guy.Well, he tries to be so nice and its wierd!
My mate reckons he’s just trying to buy his way into our group, lending people money, giving people money etc etc.
But anyway, at a party he tried to kiss my best friend’s neck and she ran away screaming. That makes me feel sick.
I heard today that just recently he tried to force himself on a girl. He tried to take her top off and kiss her and stuff, and she was so scared. I hate people who do that. It makes me sick. Like, what are we here for, to be pushed around by freaks who think theyr so sexy that any girl would wanna have them drool over them. Urgh.
But now i know why my best friend has been especially even more staying out of his way.
It makes me sick. I can’t put it any other way, its horrible.
And if people say he likes me, i hate the thought of him coming anywhere near me.
GRRRRRRRR!!!!!
Just thought i’d share that… Dont know why… But my feelings lay here!! XxX
If it is advice you are looking for, might i throw in my two cents. I’ve delt with the kind of person you speak of. It boils down to driving him away. mess with him emotionally. Make him question his motives and understandings. one big mindphuck. nothing straight forward because as you said, he is a “nice” guy. Avoid and ignore him. hopefully he will get the point. The dark side of human nature is a curiosity for the general population and anyone who embodies that can become a fascination for someone like him. take away that which he seeks.
Did it maybe cross your mind, that this poor boy is just a desperate victim of this image conscious world? You said he was ugly, and from what I could understand, that is the only reason you have to not like him as he is supposedly a nice guy. If he was good looking and had girls throwing their clothes at him you would like him, but just because in his desperate craving to feel loved he has lost track of behaving in an acceptable manner, is no reason to faze him out of your life, and ignore him. He needs help, not more rejection. I am not condoning his actions, but I do feel sorry for him.
Ok, here is what you gotta do. Now listen, if you want this to work you really have to mean everything you say. The next time he is around you and your group you need to bring all the atten. to him, then tell him like it is. In front of everyone tell him he’s butt-ass ugly and he smells like a dirty monkey’s shit. If done right he should never show his face again…. they might be some neg. effects from people who feel sorrow for him, but hey who gives a shit about what they think, if they feel sorrow for a fucking nasty shithole, then you should kick them out of your group too, it’s all about how you feel, remember that!
SurealX. What the f*ck. You just answered the question. He is damn right, girls are always interested on some popular good looking guy and end up hurt always crying by my shoulder. Hey its not really my problem, I’ve got a gf.
The problem with him is that, he don’t have anyone to tell him that he is a jerk or some shit like that. BrokenDreams, you know you could be the one to tell him that. Tell it in a nice way maybe that would help register the message on his mind. Who knows, you may have a friend who could be turned to when in need of cash.
“We make our own world bigger if we allow people to be a part of our life.”
(Darkness, you $^$%*& where’s my mthrfcking post! Why do 3 of my posts got banned? Whats in it that is prohibited?!)
omfg, you know what makes me sick, YOU, and your post, first thing, you shouldnt judge people on what they look like, answer em this, how much of a chance did u give to get to know him before assuming he was some asshole and disliking him because of his looks, i admit, he shouldnt have tried to put move on ur friends, but they didnt have to run away screaming, it would have ben just as easy to say”listen, we should just keep it at a friend level”, and you get all angry when he acts nice??? what the hell?????? there arent that many nice people out there, and when you meet one your lucky, i mean yeh, he could haveben pretending to be nice, but its better than him being a total asshole, you really should work one how you judge people. just imagine how he feels when he knows that everytime he tries to get close to a girl she runs away screaming, man he must have alot of self respect now, anyways, you should really think of someone feelings and not just base your judgement on their looks and actually take the time to get to know someone.
omfg, you know what makes me sick, YOU, and your post, first thing, you shouldnt judge people on what they look like, answer em this, how much of a chance did u give to get to know him before assuming he was some asshole and disliking him because of his looks, i admit, he shouldnt have tried to put move on ur friends, but they didnt have to run away screaming, it would have ben just as easy to say”listen, we should just keep it at a friend level”, and you get all angry when he acts nice??? what the hell?????? there arent that many nice people out there, and when you meet one your lucky, i mean yeh, he could haveben pretending to be nice, but its better than him being a total asshole, you really should work one how you judge people. just imagine how he feels when he knows that everytime he tries to get close to a girl she runs away screaming, man he must have alot of self respect now, anyways, you should really think of someone feelings and not just base your judgement on their looks and actually take the time to get to know someone.
~insertnamehere
Okay, I don’t care if anyone calls me a bad person, this guy isn’t ‘nice’ he’s pathetic, I strived, crawled and suffered to get to the level I’m at now, just because someone’s a loser, doesn’t mean you let them take your top of and molest you. This guy is a cunt, don’t insult his looks, that’s a personal preference, tell him he’s annoying, he tags along, he’s boring, he’s pathetic and he is a fucking sleaze who’s gonna find him self down a storm drain if he ever makes the first move again. Insertnamehere, I think you missed the point, sure he’s a loser, but tell me you would like a fat ugly, slutty, pathetic loser chick, who did nothing but piss you off with her try hard ways, and sexually abuse your mates. I don’t think you can. What you display is positive discrimination, which is just as bad, how come just because he’s overly ugly, he should be given false love his whole life out of sympathy? He fucking shouldn’t, he should get people to like his sense of humor, or impersonations, or philosophy or what the fuck ever, and then try and win over a girls heart, letting her make the decision, not him, because guys are wrong allot of the time, and girls are complacent allot of the time.
Okay, I don’t care if anyone calls me a bad person, this guy isn’t ‘nice’ he’s pathetic, I strived, crawled and suffered to get to the level I’m at now, just because someone’s a loser, doesn’t mean you let them take your top of and molest you. This guy is a cunt, don’t insult his looks, that’s a personal preference, tell him he’s annoying, he tags along, he’s boring, he’s pathetic and he is a fucking sleaze who’s gonna find him self down a storm drain if he ever makes the first move again. Insertnamehere, I think you missed the point, sure he’s a loser, but tell me you would like a fat ugly, slutty, pathetic loser chick, who did nothing but piss you off with her try hard ways, and sexually abuse your mates. I don’t think you can. What you display is positive discrimination, which is just as bad, how come just because he’s overly ugly, he should be given false love his whole life out of sympathy? He fucking shouldn’t, he should get people to like his sense of humor, or impersonations, or philosophy or what the fuck ever, and then try and win over a girls heart, letting her make the decision, not him, because guys are wrong allot of the time, and girls are complacent allot of the time.
Thankyou thicktears Lordenslaver, GetReal and DarkChaos, and “insertnamehere” and “SurrealX”, yeh maybe you’re trying to be nice, and maybe you were missing the point. I didnt write that message to jip his looks. And reading your messages upset me. I’m not one of the kinds to judge a person by their looks, i mean yeah looks help but they arnt everything!
I wrote the message cause i was so annoyed. It upsets me, especially when i’ve had a lad try to force himself on me. It upsets/annoys me that he deny’s it and act’s like he’s all great. The only reason it makes me sick when he tries to be so nice is cause of the lies and bullshit behind it. He used to be such a total asshole to all of our “group” and he used to take the piss out of us and stuff, but now he’s moved away from the friends he had then and now he comes in expecting us to worship him.
Yeh, maybe i’m being harsh, but i really don’t think it’s right that someone (Male OR Female) has the right to force themselves on someone. Especially when they’re innocent and scared.
His looks aren’t the reason i don’t like him. Maybe you don’t agree,maybe you don’t know me! – but i’m not that shallow.
Im sorry for offending anyone. I didnt mean to aim the post at his looks, just at how angry i was cause i hate sh!t like that. I don’t think it’s right thats all.
Suit yourself. I can’t comment on that.
Y’know, the one thing that struck me about this post was your use of the word “group”. It sounds like like this guy is probably just lonely and wants to be your friends but you’re all so happy in your group that no one else is allowed, especially not the ugly loser.
Did you ever even once think that maybe he didn’t try and rape that girl. Did you ever think that maybe there are a lot of rumours going round about this guy because he’s the brunt of bullying and stuff?
I feel sorry for him, but i also think you should just tell him straight they way it is. whats the point of letting him hang around your group if you all obviously don’t want him there, thats just plain evil.
Vix
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People are generally what you make them. My guess is, he’s been taunted and shit like that until breaking point – and i don’t care how you deny it, you’re shallow as fuck – and i figure if you want him out of your life, tell him so. you’ll sit there and you’ll bitch about his dishonesty, but you won’t be straight with him. tell him to his face that what he’s doin has to stop, coz otherwise you’re guilty for lettin him tag along, thinking it’s alright.
Sounds to me like you got no clue how hard his life is, or what he’s got goin through his head anyways. I figure you never bothered to find out what fucked him up.
thicktears, i know you’re going to pin my disagreement to the fact you think i don’t like you, but giving somebody fake love out of pity is NOT the same as giving them a chance, regardless of looks. Often people neglect to give that chance.
Later Dam
Ok for fucks sake im fucking shallow. Im a selfish stupid fucking bitch and im shallow, and i’ll deny it cos im shallower than any of you fucking thought. Im sorry i fucking wrote this post you didnt have to fucking reply. Im fucking sorry im the way i am.
Ok for fucks sake im fucking shallow. Ok??? Im a selfish stupid fucking bitch and im shallow, and i’ll deny it cos im shallower than any of you fucking thought. Im sorry i fucking wrote this post you didnt have to fucking reply. Im fucking sorry im the way i am.
Don’t be sorry, just accept our comments, and let them build you into a better person. If you think that what we said is all bullshit, then fuck us, ignore us. But as it seems, you are hurt by what we have said, and to me, that means you can see a little truth in what we said, and are too scared to admit it, but still feel the guilt. We are not trying to be mean to you, but are just trying to show you what it is like from the ugly boy’s perspective. Sorry if I upset you.
*Sighs*
“Good Advice doesn’t always sounds sweet.”
Don’t give up on us BrokenDreams..
It is sad since I have been on the other end of this several times in my life. Basically it is because I am physically ugly and socially inept. However, because of our society’s drive to _try_ not to be shallow, people invent things to justify their feelings. It sounds like most of these actual problems with the guy are hearsay or misunderstandings, at worst. I am worried that you are taking these rumors you hear and using them to justify how you are repulsed by him.
People do it all the time. I even had problems when I was younger where girls I was interested in would tell me to stop taking naked pictures of them, etc, even though I don’t own a camera. They said that someone else told them (some attractive guy that they liked – what a coincidence).
You can be very mature about this if you want to be but I fear that you asked the group hoping to get “permission” from them to do bad things to him even though your conscience knows that it isn’t right.
But you aren’t a bad person in any way for feeling this way as long as you don’t go through with it and hurt him.
Just my thoughts,
…Nights
Who cares what everyone else thinks? You just listen to old Get Real… fuck everyone, it’s all about you, you make yourself happy. Eveyone else has shit for brains.
brokedreams, don’t be phased by the negitive reaction, of course your “shallow” because it’s the opposite sex we’re talking about, everyone is to an extent, and blacklight, I respect you greatly, and I don’t try to sound like some arsehole who just hates you and can’t except it, I do know the difference between acceptance and false friendship, I just think If I told the same story but the “ugly loser” was a popular home boy, who was taging along the goth group, and he used to dis them and now he’s sexually abusing some of the female members of the group. You would react TOTALY different, I think. This guy’s bad looks are being discriminated by the people attacking brokdreams, they are saying “oh the poor cunt, he must have had a hard life…” maybe you should realize this is all spectualation, if he hasn’t come forward or tried to talk, then tell him to piss the fuck off. The home boy, or prep wouldn’t have been given a chance if he acted the way this fucker has. No, I don’t like, or defend fuck head home boyz, or fucking preps, I just hate all sexual abusers, and will attack all of them. Peace everyone.
Let’s leave this topic.. it has served its purpose.
Yeh let’s leave it. I shouldn’t have posted the message and i didn’t go into the detail i could have and worded it wrong. Whatever, i was wrong putting it up and i agree we should just leave it. I was just angry. *~*Broken*~*
broken don’t ever make excuses for yourself. we have no right to judge you, and we won’t. Not on this, and not on any angry rant you post. Don’t beat yourself (or us) up about it.
I know the feeling… It bugs me that people think they can just slip on into your life without consulting you in any way… I have people asking to walk around with my ‘friends’ and me, just because they’re wearing black and think they look Gothic.. Goddamn posers. And it’s tiring…. Next time he grosses you out… just backhand him.. tell him to shut up.. or just to go away. It usually works for me for a while.
-PAiN-
I know the feeling… It bugs me that people think they can just slip on into your life without consulting you in any way… I have people asking to walk around with my ‘friends’ and me, just because they’re wearing black and think they look Gothic.. Goddamn posers. And it’s tiring…. Next time he grosses you out… just backhand him.. tell him to shut up.. or just to go away. It usually works for me for a while.
-PAiN-