many of you felt that I, rhonwyn, was saying that I was better than those who, I beleive to still be filled with hate. Firstly, there is a huge difference between “hate-filled” and “those coming here to vent” . I do understand this and I apologise if I made my comments too generalised. Secondly, I, by no-means ” hate” the others. I’m sorry if I sounded self-righteous. My meaning was not to “step on the rest” on my way to self-improvement, but to say:
To heal you have to separate your self and set yourself apart from others pain to work through your own. All too often the immense lows experienced, when shared, become acceptable to the point where they are just totally accepted and not dealt with ( I am not saying that dealing with it, whatever the”it” is for each person,is an easy task). I do not go back on my opinion but many of you read into it things that simply were not meant or in my opinion implyed.
Also, there was a complete lack of thought on my part as to the different uses of this medium: I use it to express personal opinions and rarely go back for the reply, its more for me if you understand my meaning. I forget that others use a particular site on a deeper level than that. I will endeavor to make my self clearer than my last statement and I apologise if what I said hurt any of you. However, that does not change my opinion: Strength must be found within and, being human, we are all to willing to find excuses and things/ circumstances to blame. I did not mean to make out that I was in any way superior to any of you, what you took as self-righteousness was merely pride in my own ability. The idea of leaving others behind was a realisation that to set youself free sometimes requires cutting what ties you down, which was for me some of my friends, not all. Most saw what was occuring within me and it was actually they who let me go, understanding that there constant presence was disallowing me to heal. I was very lucky to have such friends and the result was that they made such selfless acts for me that they are now more easily able to bring themselves up a little.
I was not generalising I dont think for even a second that “you are all” or “the majority of you” are stuck in a rut. Please understand that.
Also the ” hanging at the mall” statement made by one reply was insulting and fought my supposed sweeping generalisation with another. Which was just pointless. I hope this has cleared up the majority of misconceptions.
More to the point I agree with what you said. Yet I didn’t like the manner in which it was presented. As for my hanging at the mall statement, well sorry I was in quite a mood. But ya know what they say about one good turn deserving another.
So enough of this drivel, maybe we can all learn from others experiences?
In a perfect world you wouldn’t have worded it so “holier than thou” and we wouldn’t have “torn you limb from limb” for speaking your mind.
Unfortunately this isn’t a perfect world.
My apologies, and sincere hopes that you will stick around for a while and add to the great mess that is DARKSITES.
I did not take whatever you said personally, since I was not involved in your problem. But your words were filled with a, what i thought, misdirected anger that has disappeared, and I am glad of that. It takes a sound soul to listen to and acknowledge the thoughts of others, and if I personally sounded judgemental myself, I also apologize, though I try my best not to be. Glad you came back.
But i do know how you feel, I had to give up some of my associations myself to drag myself out of a bad drug habit, and yes, it is easy to blame others for contributing to our problems, but in the end, it is only ourselves.
Good luck, stay with us and grow together.