Does anyone know how it feels to have your own mother kick you out of your house? I could understand if I was a 20 year old with no job, but I’m thirteen. I had my boyfriend over because my mom wasn’t home. We were just hanging out, I am thirteen.
He left at 10:30 and I took a shower and went to bed (alone) The next morning, my Mom rips the blanket from over my head, calls me a slut, and says “Get the fuck out of my house!” I was homeless before I called my Dad. I wasn’t sure that he would take me because my problem involves a guy. He did, and I was semi-happy for about 3 days when he said that I have to dump my boyfriend because he’s older than me. I would say that I’m quite mature for my age, and intelligent, but he didn’t care. Lucky for me I’m good with words, and I argued my way from a straight “no” to my Dad talking to some professional guy. He did promise that he would decide this fairly, but you know how fathers are when it comes to that subject. I can’t stand not seeing him any longer, and my Dad is the only adult I know that I respect and I only feel guilty when I’m hiding something from him. I really need advice, although no one probably cares, I’m sure most of you can somewhat relate to me.
i know how you feel i was kicked out when i was 12. i dont really know till this day what the real reason was that she gave me away to my father. she tells me a reason but i know thats just a curtain covering the truth. dont get mad at yourself for it tho. i have and the anger has lead me to nothing. good luck with everything….
how old is this guy?
your father sounds ok. . . but I don’t know if I trust him. . .how old was your mom when she had you? And how old was your father. . . Just tell me about everything, I’d like to hear(if you don’t mind, if you do thats ok) what else has been going on in your life.
Oh and please kick your mom in the ovaries. Maybe you’ll damage her enough so she can never have another kid.
I’m going through the same exact thing almost. My mom is kicking me out (i’m only 14) and I don’t have any where to go…My dad hit the shit outta me so I really don’t trust anyone and now my mom is kicking me out because aparently I am the cause of all her freakin problems. Be happy you have somewhere to go and you can ALWAYS find a new boyfriend…Don’t fuck around with your Dad by keeping secrets from him if he took you in, thats just not right. I am totally in with the kicking your mom in the ovaries…maybe I should try that!
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Satania666
i wasn’t kicked out, i was pressured into leaving when I was 14. I never trusted my father, he told me twice to my face that he couldn’t make himself love me.
I also know what it’s like to choose someone over your family …
My advice? Forget your mom for a moment, until she’s had time to think and she’s realized that she might lose you. That might scare her enough to try and resolve things with you …. hear her out alright?
If nothing else, I want you to accept the fact that maybe seeing someone older than yourself is unwise. Maybe your dad’s right, keep that in mind. He knows more about life than you do, and so do I.
But I know one thing for certain. Lie to your dad, and you’ll regret it. It seems like you have a good father, even if he might be a little over-protective. Because he seems to be the only person you can turn to right now. It’s not worth giving that up.
I know you don’t want to hear it, but you’re THIRTEEN for christs sake. Even if it seems like love now, it WILL get harder and more complicated, I guarantee. What you have with your boyfriend almost certainly won’t last. What you have with your dad has the potential to go on forever.
I’m just saying … you’re so young. Don’t make any permanent unchangeable decisions. I made them, I hated myself for it.
Later, Dam.
your dad seems to really care about you. and if you want all of his trust let him get to know your boyfriend. have him come over when your dads home and just let them talk. that way your dad can trust him too, and if your boyfriend really loves you he’ll agree, cause he should want your dads aprovel just as much as you seem to.
I tried talking him into meeting him. He’s sixteen. My mom kicked out my sister when I was her age. They were always fighting. My mom is very selfish, and not only do I wamt to kick her in the ovaries, I want to cut them out and put them in her eyes. Then I’ll sew her uterus to her face. We called the cops on her because she Hit my sister in the nose and blood was everywhere. He does want to meet my father, as much as it terrifies him. He will do just about anything to be able to see me again. But I’m always so happy with him, and I cannot accept the fact that I may not see him for a long, long time. At least I can talk to him on the phone. He assured me that he won’t let the distance get to him. It just makes him want me more. I believe him because he said that to me when it was okay for us to see each other. As I told my Dad, if you tell two teenagers that they aren’t allowed to see each other they just want to more. He actually wrote down rules for meeting my Dad. I stressed how much he is not allowed to touch me. That sucks. It will, hopefully, be worth it. Someday.
okay. you just stated your problem he’s sixteen. you’re thirteen. i agree with everyone, especially blacklight. it may seem like love now, but i can almost guarantee you that any relationship started at thirteen will end before you’re out of college.
people told me and i didn’t believe them, but here is the truth. at thirteen, you don’t know what love is. at thirteen, you are almost positively not in love. you have to decide if some boy is worth more than your family.
this boy will be with you for only so long. your family should be behind you forever. that doesn’t happen to often, but your dad seems to care about you. think about how much it would hurt him.
if your dad is letting him see you, than by all means follow his rules.
you will probably argue my point to all ends, i know i did when i thought what i had was love. lucky for me, no one said, “i told you so.”
best of luck to you.
–mourning
i know it dosnt seem like much of an age difference, but maturity wise it is, and if your dad has rules that shouldnt matter. if you get to see him, just do what your dad says, you dont want to loss his trust.
I know what your going through, my mum kicked me out cause of a friend…stay with your dad until your mother understands (and can think) about the reality or it all…the fact that she might loose you and never see you again…but I do agree with mourning.
You’re lucky you had someone to take you in. I wasn’t so lucky most of the time. Blacklight and Mourning give the best advice here.
Your mom sounds like a bitch….quite the loose cannon. Have you asked your Sister for advice??? It sounds like she’s been through this as well…not exactly but she knows your mom as much (if not more) as you do. You have a good father. Not many dads would take their little girls in if they recieved word that their daughters were being “sluts”, but he chose to hear what you had to say, instead of assuming the same thing your mother did.
In this case age is very important. The age difference isn’t so bad cause it’s 3 years. It’s bad cause you’re 13. Your mother’s not going to listen to you. Not now at least. If you really want to show that you’re a responsible teen take Blacklight’s advice. It doesn’t seem as though you’re giving up on the relationship soon, but if there’s no other choice you’ll be alright. I relate so much to this….getting yelled at, smacked and beaten whenever my mom heard the nieghbors talk about the boy who’d come over…..Good luck.
Magickalshadows,
Despite what most ‘mature’ people will say to you, love can be found at a yonger age, but sleazy guys can be found at anytime, and any place in the world, but if you KNOW it’s for real, then it is. Don’t have in your mind that a break-up is un-avoidable, because life is what you make it, not what others have failed to make. Stay true to your boyfriend, and believe that it WILL last, otherwise it’s a fucking lie from day one.
Good luck and I hope that this guy isn’t one of the typical guys.
i’m not saying you can’t find love at a young age.
But come on … try for some realism.
What do you suggest she does? Stay with a boy she probably won’t be with forever, at the exclusion of all else?
What if it is love? Fair enough … but she’s going to undergo so many changes from now onward, and there’s a huge chance the relationship won’t survive.
Sometimes just wanting something really hard isn’t enough. Sometimes circumstances get in the way.
By all means, in any relationship you should keep hoping it will go on forever, but you can’t just delude yourself into being certain it will.
once again, i have to agree with blacklight. how many relationsips do you know of that started at thirteen and ended at happily ever after marriage some fifteen years down the road?
i’m not saying lose this boy and fast. i’m saying you have to evaluate your situation, and in your case, you might want to choose family.
do you really have the experience at thirteen to be able to know what love really is? are you sure that you’re mature enough to make a decision that will effect the rest of your life?
what happens if your dad kicks you out? where will you go? i’m assuming this boy still lives with his parents, am i right? if so, will they take you in? not likely. and once you’re homeless, chances are slim that this boy will stay by you. you will end up crawling back and saying you’re right to your dad.
i’m simply saying that it’s not worth the risk.
I agree with MourningStar2002 if you get homeless you don’t know if he say by your side. You can always ask he’s parents if you cn move in with them and say that you mom kicked you out… if they don’t agree then I gues ou have to dump you boyfriend and live with you father. life is not fair I know, but what can you do about it.
Right now I’m just talking to him on the phone untill my Dad says that he will meet him. Thanks for your opinions, and Blessed Be.
blessed be … thats sooooooooo last season.
Nah i’m messin.
I actually had a girl say that to me once tho. Weird huh?
Anyway have a good one.
i can tell you you n to forget this guy, i went through the exact same thing, i was 15 the guy was 19 and my parents got mad about it and i yelled at them that it was love and all and they said well if its love then you can just go live with him. so i called him and he came and got me and i stayed with him and we were supposedlyy in love and gonna be together forever till one day he came home with another girl and made out with her right in front of me. the next day he said he wanted to see other ppl, luckily by this time my parents had already asked me to come back home so i called them and i went home and i learned that love is not really love at my age. me and him are still friends and all but i have learned never to choose a guy over my family.