and if there is,it doesnt last long.a few months ago,i thought i was in love,but then i realised it was just how i wanted to feel,i didnt really love him and it wasnt fair.maybe why i wont go back out with him when he keeps asking………..
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maybe he was the wrong guy maybe you are just in a bad mood maybe you don’t want the pain he caused on you
these may be reasons for thinking there is no such thing as love but like i said why love when its taken away as fast as it is brought
~Daynte~
LetsgoKill…I’ll assume you’re in your teen years… Not to sound wiser or anything, because I’m only 19 myself, but Love is something I am well-acquainted with…I don’t really have advice, but I may have some reflections that maay help you feel not-so-alone, if that is at all possible…
Real love is only noticeable to us when we’ve experienced the foils of false love. Crushes vary in their intensity, but according to our desperation they can fool us… I became deeply obsessed with my first “crush”, thinking that we belonged together, were meant for each other, should be married, etc… Of course, this was a great delusion… I had never even spoken more than a sentence to this girl… I was just so lonely, so desperate for attention and affection…
As time has gone on, I’ve realized one of the most agonizing pains in the world is that of unrequited love. It’s very unfair, because when you actually feel that REAL love, you’d really do anything for that person, but they couldn’t care less for you. For me, that first love was even more unbearable in that she told me so many lies about how she cared for me, and that only increases the pain…In my mind, I made her out to what I wanted her to be, and I loved that image. It was if I imagined in her everything I wanted and needed in an individual…It wasn’t her that I loved, it was that fucking image… Of course, the depression that resulted upon my *awakening* from this particular delusion was devastating…but i had learned something–Not only is there no such thing as *TRUE* love, but we have no business expecting people to care for us the same way we care for them. It’s tragic, but its life.
I’ve loved madly since, but the point is I don’t chase it when I know it cannot work, or it won’t be good for the other person. I just find it important that I let an individual know I care for them, instead…
I know I’m rambling here, but to address you’re comment on how fast love is taken away, well there are different forms of love to consider. If it involves more than lust and infatuation, than it will take a long, long time to “get over” it–which never totally happens in the long run. If and when this happens to you, keep your head and consider the other person’s feelings. Deluding yourself only causes more pain to yourself and possibly others in the long run…
I wish you the best of luck and love 🙁
maybe your afraid to fall in love. not wanting to get hurt you run from anyone who gets close to loving you. ive ran from anyone that ever seems to care. running isnt always the best thing. if you stay standing for once something good might come along.
I have a question. If you’re in your teen years, why does it always have to be about true love? Finding the ever-elusive “one” ?
I mean, yes, I’ve found love. I have somebody I’d die for -or even scarier – someone I live for.
But why is everybody in such a hurry to screw themselves out of having teenage years, growing up so quick?
So maybe this one is not true love, and maybe it won’t last forever. Does that really matter?
You’re not old, you have plenty of time ahead of you, As long as you’re having fun, you don’t have to make it something it’s not.
In the end, when you do find love, it will be stronger if you have some sort of history to base it on.
If he’s not Mr. Right it doesn’t matter. As long as he’s not wrong either.
Have a good one ::B::